One-Point-Five
Firing off a quick update today (Friday) as I sit here in the lobby area of the gym, awaiting the pearly white convertible steed that will escort me away from this den of sweat and villainy for the weekend!
In all seriousness, it’s been a great week. I’ve worked HARD but safe, and I’m starting to notice lots of little changes already. I can’t tell if I’ve lost any appreciable weight, but I definitely have muscles and they’re building fast. I’m starting to get a reputation for being here a lot; one of the club staff has started greeting me every time he passes by, and my trainer says I should take the weekend off and have some fun – she doesn’t have to tell me twice! Not sure how I feel about being “that girl who never leaves the gym” but I’ll deal. 🙂
In other news, it looks like I’ll be changing 20/20 therapists. I’ve enjoyed my time with my current one, but from what I’m understanding, it’s fairly uncommon for couples to see the same therapist, and her particular training is better suited to his needs. There’s also someone else who is better suited to anxiety disorders like mine. Nobody has said this to me directly (one of the worst things about therapy so far, IMO – there’s no directness, ever) but I suspect there is also some additional stress in working with a couple as close as we are. Getting to know each of us as individuals is important, and harder when most everything we say involves or impacts the other in some way. We both have a need to help and protect each other in life, and for the purposes of therapy, that can work against our best interests in subtle ways. (In the rest of life, however, it’s a must!)
For the sake of avoiding potential confusion and awkwardness going forward, and making sure we’re both getting what we need, I’m taking the suggested option to switch (they tell me I’ll get the previous two sessions gifted back to me at no additional cost.) I’m not looking forward to starting over, but at least it’s early in the program, and it sounds like I’ll be in good hands. In the meantime, I’m trying not to over-analyze what it means to get fired from a shrink. 😉 I’m sure they have their reasons  Everyone has so far.
Happy Friday, everyone!
*Update: our dryer is still broken. Very long and annoying story short, we’ll be waiting until Thursday. After this, they promise we’ll be fixed. We’ll see about that…
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Mom
It sounds like a good idea to keep the two of you separate. Strengths and weaknesses are certainly individual. The two of you have always complimented each other making, as the wedding vows say, “as one”. You are very capable of doing things on your own and you know John is always there when you get home. Just look at it as having more things to talk about. I wish I could do something like you are doing. Keep up the good work! My love to both of you!!
Cara
Lame, I wish I read this before I sent my email earlier. Rolling my eyes at myself and the irony. Anyway, I’m glad that you two are seeing different therapists. That works out better because if one saw you both, there would be a conflict of interest. I think it’s an added benefit that they are matched up with your individual needs. When I needed my therapist to be more direct with me, I’d just ask her to be. They need to respect confidentiality about others’ treatment of course, but when it comes to your own they should be able to be transparent when asked. If you ever need or want to see session notes, ask them about diagnoses or their thoughts/ideas/plans for treatment, or things like that they should be able to talk to you about it and provide you the information you need. Not sure if that helps, but I hope you have a good experience with the new therapist and can establish a good relationship with him/her. That’s great that they are crediting you the other two sessions! It’s frustrating to start over, but at least you found out about the switch before you got even further into it. Good luck with everything! I’m rooting for you! <3